The 10 Fears Holding You Back From Achieving Success
by Dom Tisher
Have or are you fearful of failure, it's time to get over it.
That's according to Adam Smith, author of, "The Bravest You: 5 Actions to Fight Your Greatest Anxieties, Discover Your Interest as well as Unlock Your Remarkable Life”.
Adam, a motivational speaker and life coach, says there are 10 fears that hold individuals back from living up to their full potential. “At some point — present or past — fear has torn us all away from some significant accomplishment or victory,” he begins.
“You can probably think back to a moment in life where you avoided it, suppressed it or hid it. If your experience is anything like mine, I know that none of these reactions helped you achieve anything.”
Instead, Smith states to tackle your anxiousness with confidence. “You don’t have to keep running from fear,” he describes “In fact, there’s a way to overcome and eradicate each and every fear you face.”
This is the list of the 10 biggest obstacles to achieving success, according to Smith, and what you can do to battle them.
Adam Smith says the first thing individuals fear is not being proficient enough. But there is a fix for this: "Once you admit that you are experiencing the fear of inadequacy, understanding is on its way."
Smith continues to explain,
“When you understand what your important role is in carrying out your pursuits, you will begin to see what you need to do when first stepping out to tackle your fear of inadequacy.”
The 2nd fear is the fear of the unknown. However there's a fix to as well, Smith wrote. “Anticipating what will happen in the future is a strength that can be developed, and it will help you take the first step when you experience the fear of uncertainty,”
He adds: And vision is what will keep you moving forward regardless of your fears. In whatever you do, anticipation and vision are both necessary ingredients to fight the fear of uncertainty.”
“In whatever you do, anticipation and vision are both necessary ingredients to fight the fear of uncertainty.” Adam Smith- AUTHOR
This anxiety marks an additional reason that some stop working to be successful “My life didn’t go exactly as planned and I’m sure yours hasn’t either,” explains Smith. “Even if you have already built a plan for your life, you can’t see the future. You can try to predict it all you want, but there are just some things outside of your control.”
He includes “That said, it’s a great practice to identify the things you can control in your bravery journey and to focus on them. This will allow you to stop focusing on the life happenings you have no control over.”
Being rejected is an additional typical concern individuals encounter in life “If we devote every ounce of passion to our lives, then we are living life in the way it was meant to be lived,” says Smith. “Yes, rejection will come, even when we find passion and put in the work, but we should be most satisfied with giving life our all.”
5. Missing out
“FOMO” or missing out is an additional fear Smith suggests can get in the way of an individual's success. “You can tell if you are fearful of missing out if you are constantly wishing that you are somewhere other than where you are right now,” he explains. “The fear of missing out is a distraction from forming lasting relationships, because it keeps you focused on what every other person in the world is doing, rather than on the people right in front of you.”The author's remedy “Instead of letting your fear of missing out put your focus on every other place in the world besides where you are right now, you can fight this fear by slowing down and focusing on the people you come in contact with every single day.”
Change happens and the fear of change happens, Smith writes “Worrying about change ahead does nothing but rob us of the present joy we could and should be experiencing. Yes, life is ever-evolving, so we do need to prepare for the future, but this should also remind us of the need to take life as it comes, one day at a time.”
Smith adds “if we are to find inner peace and passion even when everything else is changing.”
7. Losing control
This fear is a bit complicated, according to Smith. With the right amount of fear this can be helpful but to of it is a bad thing.
“Honestly, I like being in control when I can be, and I do believe that there are key areas of life that we can and should control, like our schedules, our self-perception and the words we speak,” he writes. “But as good as controlling our lives sounds, there are some things in life that are outside our control.”
8. Being Judged
It’s common to feel like you’re being judged from others.
“Feeling vulnerable, or available for attack from others, is the main reason people won’t open up in the first place,” explains the author. “In a true community, people aren’t vulnerable. They’re open, because people in a real community aren’t out to attack others in their community, but to support them.”
Instead of being afraid regarding what others may think, Smith states “embrace your personal story, because that is what makes you unique, and share it within your community.” He continues, “In fact, strive to create community wherever you are, and build confidence in yourself and the people around you while you’re at it.”
“Feeling vulnerable, or available for attack from others, is the main reason people won’t open up in the first place.” Adam Smith – Author
9. Something Bad Happening
An additional fear outside of an individual's control, Smith writes: “If you are in the midst of tragedy, remember that restoration will eventually come. The anxiety that comes from worry doesn’t bring success into your life any faster. Fear be still, bravery come near.”
He includes “Yes, tragedy comes, and nothing I say will ever diminish its magnitude, but even more powerful is the experience of restoration — the mountaintop after the experience of tragedy.”
10. Getting Hurt
The last concern Smith highlights is being harmed “The best way to fight the fear of getting hurt is to do life together and to get to know one another on deeper levels. Some will argue that building close relationships with others can only leave you hurt in the end, but living life without relationships sounds much more hurtful than never experiencing the beauty found in relationships.”
At the end of the book, Smith wraps up, “Fear is the number one obstacle you will face in life: The most difficult challenge you will ever be put to and the most important one to overcome.”